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FLAMES Calculator Online — Your Relationship Test.

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The free online FLAMES calculator, played by name and by the book. Shared letters get struck out, and one letter is left standing — a verdict, not a percentage.

How to calculate FLAMES by name

FLAMES eliminates letters rather than scoring them, so it helps to see one play out. Here is exactly what happens for one sample pair — your own names will run through the identical process above.

How the wheel got there

  1. Step 1

    Strike the letters in common

    A single letter sits in both names. Out it comes.

  2. Step 2

    Add up the survivors

    That leaves 3 on one side and 2 on the other. 5 letters go to the wheel.

  3. Step 3

    Lap 6 letters, counting 5

    E falls. 5 still standing.

  4. Step 4

    Lap 5 letters, counting 5

    M falls. 4 still standing.

  5. Step 5

    Lap 4 letters, counting 5

    S falls. 3 still standing.

  6. Step 6

    Lap 3 letters, counting 5

    L falls. 2 still standing.

  7. Step 7

    Lap 2 letters, counting 5

    A falls. 1 still standing.

  8. Step 8

    Last letter standing

    The wheel stops when one is left. That is the answer.

What does FLAMES stand for?

Friends, Lovers, Affection, Marriage, Enemies, Siblings — the six outcomes on the wheel. One survives; the rest get struck out along the way.

How are letters eliminated?

First, any letter the two names share gets struck from both — one for one, so a doubled letter only cancels twice if it is doubled in both names. Whatever survives that gets counted around F-L-A-M-E-S, knocking one letter out per full lap, until a single letter is left standing.

What happens if the names cancel out completely?

It happens with anagrams and identical names — every letter finds a partner, so nothing is left to count. The calculator shows that state honestly rather than forcing a fake winner.

How do you calculate FLAMES by hand?

Write out both names and cross out every letter that appears in both — one crossed pair per shared occurrence, so a letter doubled in both names cancels twice. Add up whatever's left in each name, then count around F-L-A-M-E-S that many times, striking out the letter you land on each pass and skipping any letter already struck, until one letter survives. That's the verdict — Friends, Lovers, Affection, Marriage, Enemies, or Siblings. This calculator runs the exact same process for whatever two names you type in.

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